Time to wake your Dreamy friend be a “FRINDY”
"When friends look after you, things will look up for you."
“You have ONE week to get your shit together! Shhhhhh! I do not want to hear it enough is enough!”_ H.Frindy
That was my friend’s loud and clear warning three months ago, and quite honestly she scared the Sh*** out of me.— To understand where she’s coming from let me first explain how things run between us.
We meet to spend 80% of our time together talking about our next plans, our big hopes and wildest dreams. We've done almost 4 years of that on endless FB chats, skype calls, long walks… talking about this next big idea, get super excited for it, talk more, dream more but do very few (truth be told we do Nada :D).
Thus, when I came to her and complained about how I'm really interested in an event and that I badly wanted to attend but can’t afford it and about this awesome event idea that I have but can’t seam to find away to start… She just FLIPPED at me.
And that's when she gave me a one week deadline to do some real action that will eventually lead me to realizing my dreams, then asked me for a written action plan for the week.
And that's when she gave me a one week deadline to do some real action that will eventually lead me to realizing my dreams, then asked me for a written action plan for the week.
Out of this experience I lined up some tips on how to make real difference in your dreamy friends:
1- STOP LISTENING!
It’s been a while you have been a good listener and let’s just face it, it does suck sometimes to listen and realize how amazing all you’re friend’s dream-plans are and in the back of your head you know for certain that it’s just that a Talk a Dream a wishful thinking and it stops at that.
So, do not be afraid to stop your fiend and tell them you’d rather see action and that your simply done LISTENING.
2- Ask them for a concrete Action plan
You still need to show how much you care now in a more practical way, try to be somewhat directive and guiding. I found the Action Plan by Hafssa a real smart move, she threw the ball in my court making me remember and feel my full responsibility over the course of my life’s events. Implicitly showing care even though she already stated she’ll no longer listen. It’s like you’ll be filtering what you’ll listen to and something like an accurate clear action plan is something you’re all ears for.
3- Set a Dead line
4- Lead By Example
You can't tell someone to abide by a rule you're not respecting. In my case Hafssa did follow her action plan flawlessly and she still is inspiring me realizing each and every single thing she has set up her mind to do.
5- Don't stop believing
A dreamer will be when faced to this kind of challenge going through a lot of ups and downs, will be making reckless decisions, will me shifting directions and it will all seam messy and they will look lost more than ever Against all odds those are good signs because that means they're finally out there trying to adapt their dream to reality. A wild mind with wild imagination tend to be resistant to accepting certain compromise and impatient to anything that is less than what it is aspiring. So keep what you've always done best as a friend. Support, Believe Be there Simply keep being a FRIEND.
NEXT Article: Types of friends you want surrounding you to realize all your dreams.
If you're wondering how this impacted me and changed me I'd ask you to wait as I'm still through the amazing experience of trying to make my wildest dreams come true... And that itself is a huge step a fulfilling journey and a first dream turned to action: TRYING, DOING, EXPLORING...
You can't tell someone to abide by a rule you're not respecting. In my case Hafssa did follow her action plan flawlessly and she still is inspiring me realizing each and every single thing she has set up her mind to do.
Being able to showcase how it is possible to make things happen only by being determined by sticking to a plan by DOING can be the change you make in your life and the life of those who are surrounding you.
5- Don't stop believing
A dreamer will be when faced to this kind of challenge going through a lot of ups and downs, will be making reckless decisions, will me shifting directions and it will all seam messy and they will look lost more than ever Against all odds those are good signs because that means they're finally out there trying to adapt their dream to reality. A wild mind with wild imagination tend to be resistant to accepting certain compromise and impatient to anything that is less than what it is aspiring. So keep what you've always done best as a friend. Support, Believe Be there Simply keep being a FRIEND.
NEXT Article: Types of friends you want surrounding you to realize all your dreams.
If you're wondering how this impacted me and changed me I'd ask you to wait as I'm still through the amazing experience of trying to make my wildest dreams come true... And that itself is a huge step a fulfilling journey and a first dream turned to action: TRYING, DOING, EXPLORING...
To be continued...
